Month: November 2012

Feng Shui Friday – Raise your vibration for x-mas

Christmas is coming… Wether you like it or not! This can be a very stressful time of the year for many. Having your home in order and balance before the holidays can certainly help in keeping the peace and avoiding the stress as much as possible.

Here are some easy to implement tips you can use to prepare for the holiday season.

  1. Declutter. Clean out your wardrobes, kitchen cupboards and linen closets. This is a great way to get some fresh, balanced energy into your home. Get rid of things you don’t like or don’t use and feel the energy vibrations rise!
  2. Take time out for you. This might seem impossible with everything else that you will be doing. It doesn’t need to take long and it will be so worth it. Get up 10 minutes early and sit outside and meditate, or just look at what is around you. Take a bath at night. Sit at the beach and watch the waves for 5 minutes… Turn off your phone and go for a walk. You get the idea.
  3. Write lists. Get a piece of paper or use a computer program or an app and write down everything that is in your head that you need to/want to get done. Brain dump randomly as things come up and then structure it and date it. That way you can see what you need to focus on every day and you don’t have to remember and stress about it in your head.
  4. Let things go. You don’t have to be perfect. Your house doesn’t need to be perfect. Decide what you don’t need to do and let it go. One of my favourites that I gave up years ago is Christmas cards, I just don’t do them anymore, and I have so much more time on my hands and the stress has lifted! What is that one thing that is not necessary that you can just simply stop doing?
  5. Keep it simple. You don’t have to make all the dishes that your grandmother used to cook for Christmas. You don’t have to decorate the whole house and garden and street… In fact, think like this: you don’t really have to do anything! Ask for help with food and other preparations. Delegate what you can.
  6. Get professional help. You don’t have to fix everything yourself. Get a handyman in to mend the fence, fix the fly screens or move the wardrobes. Bring a gardener in to make your back yard look fabulous. These services are often not as expensive as you might think and hiring someone to do the job can often save you both time and money in the end anyway.
  7. Have fun! If something is simply adding stress and is not fun or beneficial in any other way (and no, brownie points with the in-laws in not a benefit really) then don’t do it. You deserve to have a great time. You can be in charge of that actually happening.

That’s it. Really it’s about being prepared and giving yourself a break. It is not worth it to stress and try and be perfect/get it right/make everybody happy. That’s not going to happen anyway, no matter how hard you work. So give it up! Take time out to relax and smell the roses. Look after you! Life is going on right now.

I’d love to hear what you’re letting go of this Christmas!

Happy Feng Shui Friday!


Feel Good Group - x-mas list

Be prepared for Christmas!


Feng Shui Friday – Mirror, mirror on the wall…

… where is the best place to put ya’ll?

According to Feng Shui mirrors will bring you more of what they reflect. They will also bring into the space what you can see in them. This is good to keep in mind when deciding where to place them in your home.


Good places for mirrors

  • You can place a mirror in a long hallway to invite Qi to slow down and linger a bit longer.
  • A mirror on the wall of a dark room reflecting a window will help bring natural light into the space.
  • It’s ideal to place a mirror reflecting your dinner table as this will bring you abundance (reflecting the food) and great relationships (reflecting the people around the table).
  • Place a mirror anywhere in your home where you want to bring the outdoors in and make sure the mirror is reflecting only what it is you love (so not the neighbours wall or windows for example).
  • On the wall above your stove so that you can see the kitchen behind you if you have your back to the room when cooking. This will give you a sense of control and calmness.
  • On the wall in front of you at work if you sit with your back to the door or rest of the room. A small mirror where you can see what is going on behind your back will give you a sense of security and control at work. Try it!
  • When you want to make a small room look bigger and more spacious.

A good couple of questions to ask yourself when you look at what is reflected in the mirrors of your home is:

  • do I like what I see?
  • do I want more of what I see?

Of course there are some places where mirrors are not so great according to Feng Shui as well.


Not so good places for mirrors

  • Directly opposite your front door. This will reflect Qi, opportunities and visitors away from your home.
  • In a position where it reflects something you don’t like or find ugly (like the neighbours fence).
  • Where it reflects a toilet, bathroom or laundry. This will bring the energy of these rooms into your living space. Keep the doors to your wet rooms closed if this is the case.
  • Reflecting a staircase.
  • In your bedroom. Let’s expand on that one.


Mirrors in the bedroom

If you can see your own reflection in a mirror while in bed, this is not great from a Feng Shui perspective. There a few explanations as to why.

According to traditional Feng Shui a mirror in the bedroom is not recommended as it is said that your soul leaves the body while you sleep, and if the soul sees its own reflection in a mirror it might get startled. This will cause disturbed and disrupted sleep patterns. Also a mirror in the bedroom can be harmful to your relationships, especially if it is placed directly opposite the bed. A mirror reflecting a couple in bed is said to bring the energy of a third party into your intimate relationship. Something most of us don’t want.

I actually don’t know ho much of the traditional Feng Shui point of view on mirrors is true. Some might find the above too airy-fairy, and I can understand that.

What I do know is that several of my clients, myself included, has had great success by moving or covering mirrors in the bedroom in the form of improved quality of sleep in different ways.

I have actually “come up” with a more modern explanation as to what might be going on when your body is reflected in a mirror while sleeping. This is what I think.

As humans we have this “animal part” of us. Some like to call it our subconscious. Some like to call it the primal part of our brain. Whatever term you like to use, the focus of this part of us is to keep us alive. That’s it. This part never sleeps. It never stops working. It never completely stops keeping track of what is going on around us. Have you heard that you subconsciously can learn new things while you are sleeping? That’s the part I’m talking about.

Now imagine you have this part of you that is looking after your survival. This part is awake while you are asleep. This part sees something moving in the dark in your bedroom. It’s ready for fight or flight, whatever it needs to so to keep you alive. You’re not awake to explain to this part that “oh, that’s just my reflection in the bedroom mirror, nothing to worry about”. So this part is keeping track of you in the mirror all night while you are supposed to rest and recuperate. So instead of peaceful sleep, you have disrupted sleep, being prepared at any time to defend yourself against whatever it is that is moving around out there… Exhausting!

What I recommend all my clients is to make sure that they are not reflected in a mirror while lying in bed.

If you have a stand alone mirror this is easy to address. Just move the mirror so that it is no longer reflecting you on bed, or cover it with a beautiful blanket or pashmina. If you,like many people these days, have mirrored built-ins in your bedroom, you can either change the doors out (expensive) or cover them up. Some people use wall paper or sheet paper. What I have successfully done before is to put up a curtain rod in front of the built-in and hang curtains or drapes. That way you can close the curtains/drapes at night while sleeping and open them during the day when you might want to check your outfit or bring more light into the room.

As always, I hope this is helpful information. Have fun with checking out the mirrors in your home and please do get in touch if you have any questions. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

Happy Feng Shui Friday!


Feel Good Group - Kitten becomes a lion in the mirror

How you see yourself matters!


Feng Shui Friday – Email about “Money Bags” is just a hoax

There are several emails circulating relating to a topic around “money bags” and that according to Chinese Feng Shui you need to forward that email to receive money within 4 days, or go without money if you don’t forward. The Facebook version urges you to copy the post as your status to get the money, and if you don’t copy you’ll miss out.

One of the emails I received recently is copied FYI below:

“This year, December has 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays. This happens once every 823 years. This is called money bags. So, forward this to your friends and money will arrive within 4 days. Based on Chinese Feng Shui the one who does not forward ….. will be without money.”

Here’s the deal. This is not Feng Shui! Forwarding the email or copying the status will not make you wealthy or bring in more money. It’s a hoax. Simple as that. So don’t be afraid to simply delete the email and save your friends from yet another chain email they don’t need. And I’m sure you have more interesting things to put as your status on Facebook.

So let’s explore for a bit… Is there any truth at all in this and what is the connection to Feng Shui?

Let’s look at December 2012 first of all. The message claims that December has 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays only every 823 years. So yes, for for December 2012, there are 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays this year. This is correct. The fact that it happens only every 823 years though is simply not true.

December will have 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays every year December begins on a Saturday. This happens every 5 – 11 years. So December will have 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays again in 6 years, then 11 years after that, then 6 years later and finally 5 years after that (due to the leap years in the calendar, otherwise it would have been every 7 years). So December will have 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays in 2012, then 2018, then 2029, then 2035 and then again in 2040. The last time December had 5 Saturdays, 5 Sundays and 5 Mondays was in 2007.

So yes it’s a little rare, and not every 823 years rare!

Now, let’s look at the actual money bags. There is a “money bag” symbol in ancient Feng Shui and it has got to do with the Happiness Buddha. He is said to carry a money bag over his shoulder from which he hands out gifts. There is also a money bag lucky charm that you can make. Take 9 coins and wrap in a piece of cloth and tie the cloth together with a piece of ribbon. Red cloth and ribbon would be best, and you could also use green or gold. Place the money bag where you receive money in your house. So if you make your money online for example, you could place the money bag by your computer.

Personally, I do believe in lucky charms (or talismans) to a certain extent, and I think you’d have to infuse your lucky charm with a lot of energy for it to really have an impact.

From a Feng Shui perspective there are other things that you can do around your house to attract wealth and abundance. Here are just a few suggestions:

  1. Keep your entrance open, welcoming and free of clutter. Positive energy and opportunities enter through the front door, and an unattractive door repels abundance.
  2. Align your thoughts with abundance. The energetic vibration you put out into the world is very important when it comes to attracting opportunities and money into your life.
  3. Clear the rest of your house from clutter as well. Clutter weighs on your mind and keeps you stuck. It hinders the flow of energy in your life.
  4. Replace dead plants. Dead plants represent dead energy, replace them with healthy living plants to symbolise expanding and growing wealth and prosperity.
  5. Fix drips and leaks. Leaking water represents leaking wealth, fix your leaks and you will keep money from draining out of your life.
  6. Replace any broken furniture and other items, or get them fixed. Broken items signal a lack of care and carry an inauspicious energy.
  7. Keep your windows clean. Windows are the eyes of your home and when they are dirty your vision is blurred, clean them and you will see clearly again.

So there you go! Delete that email and get to work on something that will really support your wealth and abundance.

Happy Feng Shui Friday!


Feel Good Group - Happiness Buddha

A Happiness Buddha carrying a money bag. Unfortunately the money bags message is a hoax.


Feng Shui Friday – What is “good Feng Shui”?

I get this question all the time… “Is this/that good Feng Shui”? And of course it’s counter part: “I’ve heard that this/that is really bad Feng Shui?”

There are of course some “ground rules” (or general principles) for what constitutes good Feng Shui. For example, sitting with your back to a solid wall, facing into the room and being able to see the door from where you sit is great Feng Shui for your work desk.

Having your bed head up against a solid wall (that is not shared with a bathroom), being able to see the door to your bedroom while lying in bed is also good Feng Shui.

To have a live water feature in your current wealth sector is great for your finances and general abundance.

And there are many, many more examples like this where general Feng Shui principles apply. They apply to everyone in every situation and they are guidelines that I certainly use in my work and inform my clients about in a consultation.

Then there are the other things that people ask me, like “I’ve heard it’s really bad Feng Shui to have a picture of XYZ in the living room.” Or “You can’t have a XYZ ornament in the kitchen, can you?” And “My friend said that I need to place a green plant in XYZ place to attract abundance”.

When it comes to things like this, there is a lot of superstition and misinformation out there on what is “good” and “bad” Feng Shui. Most people really don’t know and most things that I hear don’t apply at all in the world of Feng Shui. So take people’s well meant advice with a grain of salt.

Regarding decorating your home, I’m a firm believer in individuality. If you love that picture in your living room, then keep it there! What does it matter if someone else doesn’t like it? What does it matter even if I as your Feng Shui consultant don’t like it? You like it, you keep it! It is after all your home and only you can decide what a picture means to you, what feelings you get when looking at it and what it represents in your world. That is not up to anyone else to decide or even have an opinion on.

Are there general meanings and representations in pictures and photos? Yes, there are. And still, in my opinion, how you feel and what a photo or piece of art represents to you as a person is much more important than any general representation according to Feng Shui principles.

So if you want to attract abundance, put a photo/picture/ornament that represents abundance to you in a place where you see if often and where it “feels right” to you. (It is always good to place pictures of what you want to attract into your life inside your front door.) If you want to know for sure that you place pictures and ornaments in the most supportive spot, then you might want to use a professional Feng Shui consultant to do the complete energetic map (Flying Star Chart) of your home to tell you exactly where you are best off placing them.

Other than that, go with what feels good to you and what makes you happy! Most people get a lot of it “right” by intuitively doing what feel best anyway. Trust your gut and decorate your home so that it makes your heart sing!

Happy Feng Shui Friday!


Feel Good Group - Is this abundance?

Does this picture represent Abundance? Maybe it does to some of you with its lush, green rainforest and flowing water. Maybe to others it represents calmness? Only you can decide!