Month: January 2013

Feng Shui Friday – 7 Top Tips for a Good Night’s Sleep

I’ve come across quite a few people lately who have problems sleeping. A good night’s sleep is very important for your body as this is the time for healing and regeneration. Not only is it important for your brain and your general wellbeing. Sleep is vital to all your cells and organs so that they get to do what they need to do. They need to have time to “clean up” after the day that you have had and get your body ready and in shape for the next day.

If you are not sleeping, not only are you waking up tired, you are also not allowing your body to go through all these processes that it needs to function at its best. The easiest to spot result of bad sleep, too little sleep or interrupted sleep is of course tiredness. There are other “side effects” of too little sleep as well, such as loss of concentration, memory loss, stress, and in the long run – illness. You can become sick due to the lack of sleep.

Using Feng Shui principles in your bedroom can help eliminate some of the most common reasons for insomnia or “bad sleep”. If you at least create a supportive environment to begin with, you’re much more likely to get a good night’s sleep then not. There are of course mental and psychological reasons for lack of sleep as well. Sometimes you can have a shift in these by changing your environment, and sometimes more help is needed. The below gives you a starting point to look at.

1. Room temperature
This is a pretty obvious one really. If your room is too hot or too cold, you won’t sleep well. In summer, try opening your windows, put a quiet fan in your bedroom or put the aircon on if you have one. In winter, use warm blankets, a hot water bottle or crank up the radiators if you have them. Do what you can to create a temperature in your bedroom that is pleasing to you.

2. Mirrors
Mirrors in the bedroom are not recommended in Feng Shui. I have had several clients telling me that they sleep like babies after doing nothing more than covering up the mirrors in their bedroom. Why is that? According to ancient Feng Shui your soul leaves the body when you go to sleep and if it sees itself in a mirror can get scared and therefore disturb your sleep. My more modern take on it is that we have a part of our brain that many like to refer to as the “animal or reptile brain”. This part never sleeps as it is in charge of our survival. It constantly keeps track of your surroundings and is not “clever” enough to distinguish between live movement from something coming at you, or the movement of you in a mirror while in bed.

Banish mirrors from your bedroom, or cover them up at night so that you cannot see yourself in one while lying in bed.

3. Clutter
Keep your bedroom free of clutter at all costs. Clutter draws on your attention and if you try to sleep in a room filled with stuff, there just is no peace. We have some form of energetic attachment to everything we own. Even if we’re not consciously aware of all our stuff, we’re connected to it and some part of us is keeping track of it. Clutter weighs on your mind and it creates stale, stagnant and at the same time stressful energy wherever it is found. Clutter in the bedroom is a big reason that many don’t sleep well. And no, you cannot hide the stuff under the bed or in the closet!

4. “Busy work”
Don’t keep your work computer or laptop in the bedroom over night. Don’t charge your mobile phone next to your bed. Don’t leave a pile of work related documents on your bedside table. I even don’t recommend having bookshelves in the bedroom as books have an active energy about them as they all tell a story of some sort. Keep any form of “busy work” out of the bedroom as this type of active energy is not beneficial for a good night’s sleep.

5. Restful colours
I recommend that you use colours that you find peaceful and restful in the bedroom. Often times different shades of blue and green work well for a bedroom, as well as beiges and browns. Stay away from bright red as this is a very active colour and most often it has an energy heightening effect on the room it’s in.

6. Bed placement
Place your bed with the bed head up against a solid wall where you can see the door to the room, if at all possible. If you don’t have a solid wall, a window will do, as long as you have thick curtains or drapes covering the window at night. Don’t place the bed head against a wall shared with a bathroom as this has a draining effect on your body. Make sure you are not sleeping on the other side of the wall from your meter box as this radiates a strong electro magnetic field that is very unhealthy for your body. Don’t lie with your feet in direct alignment with the door to the room. And if you have to put your bed in that position, close the door at night.

7. Atmosphere
Make sure you feel at peace and relaxed when in your bedroom. Make the room all about sleeping and nothing else if you can. Have only a few ornaments and pictures in here that represent peacefulness, happiness and rest to you. Furnish and decorate the room so that it feels like a sanctuary to you.

These are the most important things that spring to mind. How you feel when entering your bedroom will tell you a lot about the quality of sleep you might get in there. Take some time, sit on your bed and “listen in” to the room. Does it feel quiet? Peaceful? Maybe even a little dark? In that case, my guess is you will sleep well in this room.

If the room feels noisy, stressful and too light, chances are it’s got a too active type of energy for a good night’s sleep. Looking at the 7 steps above might help you change that. If I were to recommend you to start with only one thing, it would be to cover up any mirrors you have in your bedroom. That alone has helped many of my clients to get a good night’s sleep.

Please get in touch if you have any questions about your bedroom and how to make the most of it. I’d love to help as I know how important a good night’s sleep really is.

Feel free to share any changes you will make to your bedroom after reading this. You might inspire and help someone else!

Good night!


Feel Good Group - Bedroom Collage

A collage of peaceful, restful bedrooms.


Feng Shui Friday – Get out of your way!

As I was sitting down to write today’s blog I hit a wall. I had no idea what to write about. At all. I was contemplating not writing anything and just let it be. And then something happened. My beloved cat Rufus jumped onto my desk with his favourite toy, demanding my attention to go play with him. I figured I had nothing better to do, so I did.

Rufus loved it and I loved it. I was present with him. I wasn’t worrying about the blog. In fact, being in that space of play was really fun.

And now here I am, back at the computer with an idea for this blog. All I had to do was get out of my own way a little!

Energetically I can support myself and what I want to or need to get done, or I can work against myself and make it a struggle. Today I just learned again that it’s ok to take a break. That pushing through is not always the best way forward. That when I leave a situation where I feel stuck and do something that I find enjoyable, energy starts to flow again.

You are an energetic being, resonating at a certain frequency at a certain time. This frequency can either be aligned with what you’re doing, or not. If it’s not, you struggle, you feel stuck, you push and push and nothing happens. You do not move. When your energetic frequency is in alignment, things are easy. You go from one clarity to another and the things that you want come to you easily. I’m sure most of you know what I’m talking about here.

It’s the same with your home. The energy in there can either be supportive of what you want to create, or not. You can have a bedroom that is set up for rest, recuperation and peaceful sleep. Or you can have a bedroom that is keeping you awake at night. There might be a mess, lots of clutter, work papers, computers and maybe even a TV bringing active energy into this space of rest. Knowing what you want to create in a room and supporting those kinds of energy is like creating magic. You have the power to choose and change.

So what can you do when you’re stuck? Anything that works for you really. Maybe take a walk, do a 5 minute meditation, clean out one of your desk drawers (cleaning brings in lots of fresh energy), make a cup of tea, play with the kids/cat/dog. Do something that you really enjoy. That’s the key. Something that will put a smile on your face. When you’re happy, you’re in alignment, always. And from that space, you can create.

What will you create today?


Feel Good Group - Rufus

This is Rufus, helping me leave work for a while to re-align my energy.


Feng Shui Friday – Here’s to new beginnings!

Are you one of those people who make great new years resolutions every year, only to find that you feel overwhelmed and stop doing them after a few days? You know you want something really bad and you set off with the best intentions, only to find that all of a sudden you just stopped doing it? And then you probably start beating yourself around the head over it too?

Well, you already know this… You’ve been setting yourself up to fail!

I’ve taken a new approach to goal setting this year and I feel totally different. I feel inspired, I feel harmonious and I trust that these things that I want will come to fruition in a way that is beneficial to me, everyone around me, my environment and the planet. And I am willing to take action, I’m willing to change.

I used to set well defined goals with smaller, achievable stepping stones along the way. I’d make my goals really clear so that I knew whether I reached them or not. I would set a time frame to them, set up some form of tracking system and off I would go. The way I used to set goals is often referred to as SMART goals: your goals should be Specific – Measurable – Attainable – Realistic – Timely.

Well, if you’re anything like me, that formula doesn’t work. And you know what, I don’t know why exactly, and it just didn’t do it for me.

When I looked at the goals I set myself using this formula, all I would feel was stress and pressure. And tell you what, I very rarely achieved them either. Even though I might have followed my plan to the T, at the end of the specified time, I still hadn’t reached my goal.

Looking at what I set out to do, I would instantly start asking myself questions like: Is this really what I want? Should it be more/less/different in any way? Can I do it in this time frame? What’s realistic and achievable? How do others do this? I don’t know anything about how to do this, so how can I ever get there? etc. etc.

The negative self-talk would take over and looking back at it now, I think that is definitely one of the major reasons that ruined the whole thing for me.

Only now that I have done it differently did I realise I was never inspired by those goals. I never really trusted that I wanted it in the first place, or that I could get there. I was setting them from a mind-frame of lack, coming from what I didn’t have and therefore focussing already on the negative. I was looking at where I wanted to be and setting all the little stepping stones only confirmed to me how far off the mark I was. Not once did I look at all the things I already did great and focussed on creating more of that.

I also never worked with getting rid of thoughts, actions, old beliefs etc. that was contradictory to what I wanted to achieve and I never looked at how I could remove these obstacles before beginning my journey.

I set daily and weekly actions that I thought would take me closer to the goal and I followed through, I did do all those things I thought would create my desired outcome. Still, at the end of the set time frame, I was not where I wanted to be.

Since then I have come across some different ways of setting goals that were new to me. There are a few common denominators between all of these.

Firstly, they are all about connecting with myself and setting goals that stem from the inside of me, not coming from what looks good from the outside. This might seem glaringly obvious and this is hopefully what other people using the SMART goal formula are doing. I never did. I just kind of randomly picked a goal that looked good, applied the SMART formula to it and set off to not achieve that goal! I never took the time to really look inside to find out what I truly wanted.

Secondly, they look at what is currently standing in my way of already having these things that I desire. Is it the way I look at myself and my abilities? Is it that I actually lack a skill set that I need? Do I have old limiting beliefs around this area that I need to get rid of? Do I need to change behaviours and habits? And then they all use different ways of clearing these obstacles that I have identified before I get to work on the actual goal.

Thirdly, they leave room to move in the way that the goal is formulated. In this type of goal setting it’s ok to use words like “around”, “more than” and “less than”, and simply what I have previously deemed as fluffy terms, such as “abundance” and “happiness”. So there is an inbuilt trust in these goal setting ways that leaves room to improve on the result I have wished for. There is a trust that there is room for the universe/god/my subconscious (whatever you want to call it) to attract to me situations, people and results that I could not imagine at the time I set the goal in the first place.

Let’s look at an example:

  • SMART goal: I attract new business to the value of $2000 every week from 1 January 2013.
  • New goal: I have a successful business where I make enough money each week to sustain my desired lifestyle.

I don’t know about you, and they feel totally different to me.

The second one leaves a lot of “wriggle room”. What is successful? The way I see a successful business today might be a lot more limited and smaller than what my real potential of running a successful business is. So I’m leaving room for development of the concept, I’m leaving room for the universe/god/my subconscious to bring me opportunities that I could not think up for myself. The same goes for “my desired lifestyle”. This concept will change and develop over time and I think it’s really important to not set a limit to what my lifestyle could look like by what I imagine as possible in this moment.

Does that make sense? Well, it does to me. And I’m so glad I’ve discovered this, for lack of a better word, “softer” way of setting goals. It’s about going inside, it’s about looking at what would screw me over if I didn’t address it, addressing that and then setting a goal that leaves room for a better result than I can imagine at the time of setting the goal.

If you feel so inclined, have a look at the goals you set yourself for 2013 and re-word them as per above, and see which one you feel more inspired by. Then work with that one.

Here’s to new beginnings and to you reaching your goals this year, in whichever way that serves you best!

Happy Feng Shui Friday,

Feel Good Group - Here's to new beginnings in 2013!

Here’s to new beginnings in 2013!