I went to a referral based business group meeting this morning, and the lovely lady who looks after us every Friday morning was there as usual. Though nothing was as per usual with her today. Normally she’s so happy, bubbly and her smile is contagious. Not so today.
For most of the meeting I was so wrapped up in what I was doing, running the meeting on time, making sure everyone got to participate and say their bit etc. and I didn’t consciously notice that anything was wrong.
Not until the meeting itself was over and I was packing my things up to get going. Then I noticed. She wasn’t smiling, she wasn’t throwing her normal little jokes and comments about. So I stopped and I felt into her energy and I could really sense something was different.
As I was walking out the door, I took a quick second to lean over, say thank you and give her a big kiss on the cheek. She looked me deep in the eyes and she said:
“Thank you. It’s just one of those days.”
And I’ve been thinking of that ever since.
“It’s just one of those days.”
Sometimes that is so true. I bet you have your own version of “just one of those days” and that you know exactly what that feels like for you. To me, that’s a day when I’m a bit off. Most things seem to not be going my way, though there is nothing exactly wrong either. If there was something tangible going on, I would define that as a “shit day” instead of “one of those days.”
It’s a bit of an in-between, and still it’s very exact too. It’s not great, and it’s not terrible, and it’s a bit frustrating perhaps.
“One of those days”.
It’s such a useful expression I’ve realised. In it lies the freedom that things aren’t quite ok, and at the same time, it’s ok that they’re not. There’s an underlying tone of hope actually, well there is to me anyway. It says to me that because it’s just “one of those days”, tomorrow is a new day and things will be different.
There’s a freedom in admitting that things aren’t great right now, and at the same time I know they will be right again, soon. And I don’t actually have to do anything about it (unless I want to of course). It will sort itself out by tomorrow.
So, I’m learning to embrace “those days” when they come around! They give me perspective, depth and contrast in my life. They show me what it feels like when things are a little tough, and in that, give me hope that tomorrow is going to be different, better, clearer, happier – whatever it is that is currently lacking in my day.
Why not give it a try? Embrace that niggly feeling, embrace the “not quite right” and in the middle of it all you have this opportunity to see the light at the horizon. No need to push through, pretend to be ok when you’re not. Just have “one of those days” and it will soon pass. Allow it to be exactly what it is, a bit off. And soon enough you will bounce back to higher energy, happier thoughts and more ease in taking action.
Let yourself be where you are and enjoy all of your days. I know my life feels better overall as I learn to accept where I’m at, what I can and want to change, and what I might just need to sit with for a while.
So the next time I’m having “one of those days” I will let it be just that… Maybe you can join me and give it a go too?