Category: Personal Power

Feng Shui Friday – Here’s to new beginnings!

Are you one of those people who make great new years resolutions every year, only to find that you feel overwhelmed and stop doing them after a few days? You know you want something really bad and you set off with the best intentions, only to find that all of a sudden you just stopped doing it? And then you probably start beating yourself around the head over it too?

Well, you already know this… You’ve been setting yourself up to fail!

I’ve taken a new approach to goal setting this year and I feel totally different. I feel inspired, I feel harmonious and I trust that these things that I want will come to fruition in a way that is beneficial to me, everyone around me, my environment and the planet. And I am willing to take action, I’m willing to change.

I used to set well defined goals with smaller, achievable stepping stones along the way. I’d make my goals really clear so that I knew whether I reached them or not. I would set a time frame to them, set up some form of tracking system and off I would go. The way I used to set goals is often referred to as SMART goals: your goals should be Specific – Measurable – Attainable – Realistic – Timely.

Well, if you’re anything like me, that formula doesn’t work. And you know what, I don’t know why exactly, and it just didn’t do it for me.

When I looked at the goals I set myself using this formula, all I would feel was stress and pressure. And tell you what, I very rarely achieved them either. Even though I might have followed my plan to the T, at the end of the specified time, I still hadn’t reached my goal.

Looking at what I set out to do, I would instantly start asking myself questions like: Is this really what I want? Should it be more/less/different in any way? Can I do it in this time frame? What’s realistic and achievable? How do others do this? I don’t know anything about how to do this, so how can I ever get there? etc. etc.

The negative self-talk would take over and looking back at it now, I think that is definitely one of the major reasons that ruined the whole thing for me.

Only now that I have done it differently did I realise I was never inspired by those goals. I never really trusted that I wanted it in the first place, or that I could get there. I was setting them from a mind-frame of lack, coming from what I didn’t have and therefore focussing already on the negative. I was looking at where I wanted to be and setting all the little stepping stones only confirmed to me how far off the mark I was. Not once did I look at all the things I already did great and focussed on creating more of that.

I also never worked with getting rid of thoughts, actions, old beliefs etc. that was contradictory to what I wanted to achieve and I never looked at how I could remove these obstacles before beginning my journey.

I set daily and weekly actions that I thought would take me closer to the goal and I followed through, I did do all those things I thought would create my desired outcome. Still, at the end of the set time frame, I was not where I wanted to be.

Since then I have come across some different ways of setting goals that were new to me. There are a few common denominators between all of these.

Firstly, they are all about connecting with myself and setting goals that stem from the inside of me, not coming from what looks good from the outside. This might seem glaringly obvious and this is hopefully what other people using the SMART goal formula are doing. I never did. I just kind of randomly picked a goal that looked good, applied the SMART formula to it and set off to not achieve that goal! I never took the time to really look inside to find out what I truly wanted.

Secondly, they look at what is currently standing in my way of already having these things that I desire. Is it the way I look at myself and my abilities? Is it that I actually lack a skill set that I need? Do I have old limiting beliefs around this area that I need to get rid of? Do I need to change behaviours and habits? And then they all use different ways of clearing these obstacles that I have identified before I get to work on the actual goal.

Thirdly, they leave room to move in the way that the goal is formulated. In this type of goal setting it’s ok to use words like “around”, “more than” and “less than”, and simply what I have previously deemed as fluffy terms, such as “abundance” and “happiness”. So there is an inbuilt trust in these goal setting ways that leaves room to improve on the result I have wished for. There is a trust that there is room for the universe/god/my subconscious (whatever you want to call it) to attract to me situations, people and results that I could not imagine at the time I set the goal in the first place.

Let’s look at an example:

  • SMART goal: I attract new business to the value of $2000 every week from 1 January 2013.
  • New goal: I have a successful business where I make enough money each week to sustain my desired lifestyle.

I don’t know about you, and they feel totally different to me.

The second one leaves a lot of “wriggle room”. What is successful? The way I see a successful business today might be a lot more limited and smaller than what my real potential of running a successful business is. So I’m leaving room for development of the concept, I’m leaving room for the universe/god/my subconscious to bring me opportunities that I could not think up for myself. The same goes for “my desired lifestyle”. This concept will change and develop over time and I think it’s really important to not set a limit to what my lifestyle could look like by what I imagine as possible in this moment.

Does that make sense? Well, it does to me. And I’m so glad I’ve discovered this, for lack of a better word, “softer” way of setting goals. It’s about going inside, it’s about looking at what would screw me over if I didn’t address it, addressing that and then setting a goal that leaves room for a better result than I can imagine at the time of setting the goal.

If you feel so inclined, have a look at the goals you set yourself for 2013 and re-word them as per above, and see which one you feel more inspired by. Then work with that one.

Here’s to new beginnings and to you reaching your goals this year, in whichever way that serves you best!

Happy Feng Shui Friday,

Feel Good Group - Here's to new beginnings in 2013!

Here’s to new beginnings in 2013!

22/12/2012 – The World did not end yesterday… or did it?

2012 has been a big year with lots of challenges from a Feng Shui perspective. The different elements according to Chinese astrology has not been in harmony this year and there has been a lot of change happening in the world. There are other theories, such as the Mayan calendar, setting 21 December 2012 as an important date in the history of the Earth. Some say we moved into a new galactic era yesterday. Others say the ascension of human kind sped up. Some were expecting the Earth to actually cease existing. Others again claim that yesterday was just another day.

You can believe what you want around all of that.

Me, personally, I hope the world did end yesterday. The world that I see around me has got to change. I know it, I can feel it, we are bigger than this. This is not how we want it to be. We don’t want kids to die of obesity in their teens because they have no real food to eat. We don’t want other kids to die of famine because they have no food at all to eat. We don’t want our oceans to be so polluted that species after species die. We don’t want the last of the tigers in the wild to be extinct. We don’t want war. I really don’t think that that’s what we want. And still, this is where we’ve been. Hopefully up until yesterday.

What if yesterday was the end of the world? What if 21 December 2012 was the day when we turned a corner? When we woke up to ourselves and what we’re doing? What would that be like? What if today was the day we started with a clean slate?

I’ve been thinking that what matters now is this: we’re still here! And in my opinion we have an obligation to live our lives to the fullest. That’s nothing new really, that was the case before 21/12/2012 as well. What if now something has magically changed though, and all of that which you didn’t believe you could have before, now you know you can? What would you do? What would you dream and hope for? What would you create?

I believe that’s why we are all here anyway. To live our dreams. To experience, explore and expand. To learn, to grow, to keep looking and to have fun. To live the life of our dreams. To have a life bigger, better and more fantastic than we dared dream of at one stage or another. To continue our journey, being curious. To grow, to expand and to do good for the world and everyone living in it, including plants and animals.

We have a chance to make a difference, in a good way. To make sure that the world is a better place because we were in it. To do something lovely for others, and to do something that matters to us.

Go out there, live your dream, be the best you that you can be. Think big, dream bigger and expect miracles to happen.

My dream is a world where we look after each other. Where we love, honour and respect other human beings, as well as the animals, the plants and the Earth. We have an opportunity now to chose differently. To look at yesterday as a line in the sand. A line that we will never go back across again. A line that defines new values on Earth, new ways of looking at things. A world where we care. A world where we work together to set things right. To grow and eat healthy food. To clean up our waters. To save endangered animals and plants and to make sure this magnificent planet we can call home keeps on living and breathing.

I hope the world ended yesterday. I hope the world where greed, anger and separation ruled is no more. Dead, disappeared, gone – never to be heard form again. And I hope that we are born again. With new values, with new ways of looking at ourselves and our planet and that we strive to find a way to live together in harmony with all that is.

With love,


Feel Good Group - Line in sand

I hope we drew a line in the sand yesterday…


Feng Shui Friday – Inside Out or Outside In?

When you want to reach a new goal in your life, or you want to create change, do something different, experience something new… Where do you start? What is the best way to bring about what you want?

Do you start with your own thoughts and actions and from that find a supportive environment to bring about what you desire? Or do you put yourself in a supportive environment first, and from that start developing new thoughts, actions and habits?

Does change occur from the Inside Out or from Outside and In?

The way I see it, Feng Shui is an outer representation of your internal world. What you think, how you feel and your beliefs are represented in your surroundings. The energetic vibration you have within you will resonate with objects and places in your surroundings and you will feel drawn to, and at home with, energies at the same level as those within you. So in some ways, where you live is an external representation of your internal world. Something is drawing you to this home at this moment.

This creates great opportunities to learn from your current home. If you are financially challenged where you live, how do you feel about money on the inside? What are your thoughts and associations with wealth? If you don’t feel supported at work, or in your relationships, did you know that your home can be a catalyst for change in those areas?

For the best possible results using Feng Shui in your home, you also need to support these changes within you. This might mean you need to look at your beliefs around relationships and communication if you want to create a change in those areas, as well as making Feng Shui adjustments in corresponding sections of your home. It’s a little bit “chicken and egg-syndrome”. What comes first? The internal shift, or the external? I believe that it works both ways, and one can be a catalyst for the other. If you feel stuck in one area, create outer change to support yourself in moving forward. If you’re doing great and aligning your thoughts and actions, but not getting the results you want or expect, align your home with your goals and see your results increase.

So there is no one answer to the question I asked, it works both ways. I find this very reassuring. When I am stuck in a thought pattern that doesn’t serve me and what I want to create, I can bring about outer change in the corresponding areas of my home and without fail, I will experience a change in thoughts too. When I do things differently, my internal dialogue and the energetic vibration of my home will change. It’s all connected. After all, everything is energy vibrating a different frequencies. Make sure yours is resonating in sync with your dreams and goals.

Happy Feng Shui Friday!


Feel Good Group - Change

Change ahead!



Feng Shui Friday – “What you think about you bring about”

I think that it’s pretty well accepted these days that what we think and how we act create our reality. Our mind is a very powerful tool and it can help us get more of what we want, or it can help us get more of what we don’t want. The choice is ours.

According to the movie “The Secret”, the Law of attraction is always working. If we take the point of view that this is true, then whatever you think about, you will create in your life.

So if you worry about not having enough money, you will not have enough money. If you constantly tell yourself that you’re tired, you will feel tired. If you tell yourself every time you come home that you don’t like where you live, you will never feel at home there. You get the drift.

On the other hand, if you think about things that you want, things that make you happy, you will be attracting more of that to you.

On an energetic level there is something going on here. I can’t explain it. There are lots of people claiming to have found “THE secret” to creating the life of your dreams. Many of them sell you courses, literature, coaching seminars, videos etc. etc. showing you “exactly how to do it”. That’s all well and good. Except that I don’t think there is ONE way that will suit everybody. We all process information differently and different ways and techniques will suit some people and not others. I think the problem is this – people will buy the stuff and never actually do anything with it.

It can be so much simpler than that. Monitor your own thoughts and work on changing them out to things that serve you. And then ACT on these positive thoughts. DO something! I’m not an expert at this in any way, and I’m chipping away at it. I’m getting there. I see the changes happening for people after I have helped them set up their homes to be supportive of their health, wealth and relationships. I see the outer change in their environment help propel the inner change forward.

I read through an old journal of mine a couple of days ago. A journal that I wrote over one long weekend in September 2003. It was a self development course that I did at that time and the focus was on letting go of what no longer was serving me and then looking to the future and what I wanted to create.

This is what I wrote: “I want to live in a house by the beach and have a career that I find fulfilling and that is of service and help to others”.

Nine years later. Here I am. I live in Manly, I have a 2 minute walk to one of the world’s most beautiful beaches (at least I think so!) and I work as a Feng Shui consultant which I find very fulfilling and it certainly helps people. So that worked.

Did I have doubts along the way? Yes. Did I focus on this and think positively about it all the time? No. Most of the time I have not been actively thinking about it at all.

And yet, here I am.

So have a look at where you are today and reflect back on how you got there. What did you do and what didn’t you do to create the life that you have? And be aware that your thoughts have power and that this power is real. And know that your home can energetically support you in making your dreams come true.

Love your home and show it!

What comes up for you when reading this? Please share.

Happy Feng Shui Friday!


Feel Good Group - Manly

PS. The course that I did and that really suited me is called the isa Experience. You can check it out here.