Category: Personal Power


What’s inspiration? According to Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition, “inspiration” is:

  1. stimulation or arousal of the mind, feelings, etc, to special or unusual activity or creativity
  2. the state or quality of being so stimulated or aroused
  3. someone or something that causes this state
  4. an idea or action resulting from such a state
  5. the act or process of inhaling; breathing in

So basically, inspiration is something that gets your mind excited, your feelings onboard and gets you to do something creative or out of the ordinary (my jumbled interpretation of the above). That sounds pretty exciting to me!

Yet I often feel “uninspired”. I don’t want to take on a task because I don’t feel inspired to do so, I feel like it’s a chore. Or I’m “just not in the right mindset”. So I wait around and hope that, somehow, inspiration will “happen to me”. Well, most of the time, it doesn’t. So I end up making myself do that thing I really needed to do several days ago, feeling equally as uninspired about it now, only with the twist that now it’s urgent. So I get to add a level of stress as well.

Nothing like a bit of a deadline to motivate me, and lots of other people.

And I know this problem isn’t just for me, I hear people say this all the time: “I don’t feel inspired”.

And I want to change that, for me, for you, for anyone who’s open to some new ideas!

Let’s look at this for a moment. According to Collins English Dictionary, inspiration can be someone or something that causes the state of inspiration. It doesn’t say anywhere that I have to be the one to inspire myself. That’s great. That takes the pressure off. In fact, it even points to the solution right there.

When I don’t feel inspired, someone or something else can get me there. So it seems quite easy then, doesn’t it? If I feel uninspired, and I wish I was inspired instead, go find someone or something to put me in that inspired state.

So here’s an idea. Why not set up your own “Inspiration Kit” (or insert other cool term here that works for you)?!

What inspires you? What gets you in that space of feeling creative, in the flow, ready to go? What leaves a smile on your face and makes you bubble with energy? Is it inspiring quotes? Pictures, books, music, people, movies, websites, places, activities??? What floats your boat? What makes you feel like taking action?

I’m sure if you think about it, there’s a lot more that inspires you than you were originally aware of. So my suggestion is to collect it all in one place where you can easily access it when you “need inspiration”.

You could do a vision board. Or an Evernote note. Or a bookmarks category in your browser. Or an excel sheet. Or a file in your filing cabinet. Or a drawer in your credenza. Or a board on Pinterest. Or start a Facebook group and invite your friends to play.

I’m sure you’re getting the picture here!

So this is what I’m going to do:

  • create a play list with music that lifts my energy and makes me want to dance
  • set up a separate shelf in my book shelf with inspiring books (Eckhart Tolle “A new world”, “Rework” by the guys from 37 Signals, “Become a key person of influence” by Daniel Priestley, among a bunch of others will go there)
  • continue to pin great quotes to my Pinterest board
  • and remember to take a break and go outside and sit in nature when all else fails!

What will you do? I’d love to know.

Have an inspired weekend!


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Thumbs up for Inspiration!


Find your passions in your childhood

One of my friends reminded me today about living with purpose and passion. She said it’s not about a job description, but rather a theme of desire that weaves through all of your life. It feels good, and still it might not always be easy. She said to look at what I loved as a child before too much of life and people got in the way of what I enjoyed doing.

Reading this sent me back on a journey to my childhood. And this is what I discovered about myself:

I loved being outdoors in nature in any way, shape or form. Especially the dark, magnificent Swedish woods around both of my grandparents places. The smells, the plants, the animals. Every now and then I would even catch a glimpse of a moose! Picking berries and mushrooms, knowing all of them by name and which ones I could eat and not.

I read everything I could get my hands on about animals, I can still see in my minds eye the two most amazing books on my parents bookshelf: Nordic Lexicon of Animals I and II (my own translation). The Puma (cougar) in there… I can still see her face.

I loved working with wood, carving things, always had my knife with me when I went out into the woods and made stuff out of old branches. Collecting feathers. Swimming in and rowing on lakes. Sitting quietly on a big rock in the reeds at the lake, watching dragonflies, butterflies and bees all around me and just forget about time.

Hanging out with my grandfather’s massive Ardennes (Ardennais) horse. Walking the neighbour’s dogs if they let me. Sleeping with my cat. Reading, reading, reading and listening to music.

Waking up in the middle of the night to go outside and talk to the full moon… Planting seeds in my parent’s garden on my own allocated little piece of land and watching them grow. Sun-baking (even though my skin is not really made for it). Picking up beautiful rocks and taking them home.

Spending time by the ocean, collecting shells and then making little “art work piles” of them all throughout my room at home.

Smelling the flowers. Taking the time to lay down on the grass and watch the clouds go by. Collecting tadpoles and watch then grow into frogs. Catch water salamanders in the creek and bring them home.

Watching fires burn in our fire place. Playing tricks on people.

I also remember always naturally standing up for the “weaker” or “less fortunate” around me. Telling bullies off came naturally to me as a child. I just never understood the purpose of picking on anyone.

I was also very secure in myself and knew what I liked and didn’t like, and I wasn’t afraid to share this with the world around me.

What does all of this mean to me right here, right now? For one, I’m reminded (again) of my love of nature and our planet and how important it really is for me to connect with animals and the outdoors often.

The other things is, that in my own way, I have always wanted for myself and the people around me to feel good about themselves, to operate from a place of personal power on the inside.

A very timely reminder for me right now as I move forward with my new business!

What did you love doing as child? How could you bring these things into your grown-up life and live with authenticity, passion and coming from a place of feeling empowered, right here, right now?

While moving forward into 2014, I’ll be connecting back to the little girl who knew herself, and let her light shine through my life once more.

What will you do for you?

Here’s to an awesome year ahead,

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Me and my grandfather’s Ardennes horse Tora.

Happy New Year

Happy New Year everyone!

Have you got something you really want for 2014? Well, this new year’s eve the moon is supporting us in letting go of what we no longer need so we can step fresh into a new year tomorrow.

Tonight is a dark moon, and tomorrow is a new moon. A naturally great situation for leaving behind what you no longer want and then put forward what you intend to create.

Take advantage of the energetic support you’re getting from nature tonight and tomorrow!

For me, I’m officially launching Red Volcano to replace my previous business FeelGood Feng Shui. I’m very excited about this!

May next year be your best one yet! Get out there and create what it is that your heart desires!!!

Wishing you a wonderful end to 2013 and a great start to 2014,

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Go out there and create a magical 2014!

Time for a time-out?!

It’s that time of year again… The silly season is upon us and I don’t know about you, but for me, it seems like this year the buying hype and shopping frenzy has reached new highs. I went to the mall yesterday because I needed a new top. I’m doing an important talk on Tuesday and I want to look my best. So I figured it was time to treat myself to something beautiful and new.

I nearly turned around with mission unaccomplished!

It was insane. I was not prepared for it, not at all. I had to wait in line in the car park to get a parking spot. There were cars everywhere, annoyed people and honking. Like I said, I nearly turned around. But the thought of my talk and the need of looking great was bigger than the discomfort of being in this unpleasant situation, so I prevailed.

While I was sitting in my car, waiting for a park to free up, I looked at the people around me. “T’is the season to be jolly…” Right? Nope. All I saw was unhappy faces, parents pulling at their kids arms to hurry them up, shopping trolleys overflowing with stuff (some so full things even fell out) and I thought to myself “This is not healthy”.

When did Christmas become all about buying stuff? When did we decide that it’s so important to look the part that weeks out many, many of us are already stressed and “trying to get everything ready”. What is that “everything” that we “need” to get done anyway? Says who? If it’s all about your own wants, needs and wishes, that’s cool. How many do you think are doing it because “it’s expected of me” or “it’s just what we do in our family”, or a similar reason?

If the need to get things done is not deeply rooted within yourself and something that you are happy to do, I challenge you to think about it carefully. Is it really that important? Is there an alternative way to go about it? Can you make a choice that this year, less is more? Can you find a way that is less stressful, more fun and so much better for your in the long run?! Just have a look and see if this resonates with you.

We’re coming into the summer holiday season here in Sydney, kids will soon be off school and life will slow down a little. Don’t wait until then to look after yourself! Take som time out in the last two weeks leading up to Christmas and just relax. Even if it’s only for 5 minutes. 5 minutes is better than no minutes!

Go sit by the beach and look at the waves for 5 minutes.
Close your eyes, lean back in your office chair and day dream for 5 minutes.
Instead of being on your phone while commuting to work, close your eyes and just be still.
Go for a short walk at lunchtime.
Take your shoes off and plant your feet in the grass.
Read a book that makes you happy.
Hug a tree.
Kiss your partner like you kissed when you first met.
Fall asleep in your daughter’s bed.

Do something for yourself consciously every day. Take some time out. Relax. And let go of the stress that is not yours. Do Christmas your way.

What can you do to give yourself 5 minutes of alone time? What will you do? What did you do? I’d love to know!

Today, I’ll have a cup of tea in my beautiful garden, just listen to the birds and be still…

With love,


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Tea time out for me today!



Your life should light you up!

This is a pretty big statement, I know. And there is also a “should” in there too. Well, today I’m feeling a little bit like throwing caution to the wind and breaking some rules.

Yes, I don’t like being “should upon” any more than the next person. And at the same time I really do believe that your life should light you up! I believe that if you’re not happy with your life, if you don’t feel joy, passion, happiness and some sense of meaning in life, then you’re missing out.

I actually think life is meant to feel inspiring, interesting and easy. Yes, easy. I don’t think the happiest people are the ones that struggle the most. I think the happiest people are the ones that take on the day as it comes. The ones that go with the flow, that take things as they come.

I think these people have an ability to let go of things they cannot control. And it makes sense. Why worry about something you can’t do anything about anyway? It will only bring you down.

So maybe happiness comes from being content in the moment? Maybe it’s about being able to appreciate where you are right now, feeling good about it, and not wanting for more in this very instance? Maybe happiness is about being present? Maybe that’s what people call happiness?

I’m thinking that maybe many of us have this distorted picture of happiness, that it’s a desired state to live in, all the time. Like watching a fun movie or giggling with your girlfriends, that bubbling feeling of outward expression.

What about if happiness is not that? What if happiness as you think it should be is just a concept? What if it’s something you are yet to discover the meaning of for you? What if the point is being content with where you’re at, and inspired to be journeying towards where you want to go? What a possibility! What an inspiring, new finding to grow into.

I do believe growth is paramount to feeling like your life is lighting you up. And I don’t mean growth in size. I mean growth as in spiritual awareness, as in taking on a new challenge, learning a new skill, doing something you’ve never done before.

Growth can also be about being afraid of something and doing it anyway. Whenever I do that, I feel better after. I feel stronger. I feel alive. You might even say that I feel like my life is lighting me up!

What can you do to make sure your life lights you up? I’d love to know.



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Your life should light you up!


Use your fears

I’m currently reading “The Me Myth” by the fabulous Andrew Griffiths. Such an inspirational book filled with little gold nuggets.

If you don’t know who Andrew is, go have a look at his website. He’s a really great guy and “The Me Myth” is a story about his personal journey in life. He’s been through some pretty tough times and made some inspiring decisions. I’m lucky to have Andrew as one of the mentors on a business development program I’m currently attending. Anyway, this is what caught my eye and tied in with my emotions today:

“Over many years I have learnt to identify other people’s fears coming to the surface. As soon as I hear someone telling me what I can’t do, or why I shouldn’t be doing something, I get a small internal smile and I look at them to see why they are scared of my desire to reach for my dreams. That is their issue, their problem, their challenge, but I never let it stop me.”

Reading this I realised how often, in the past, I have not been supportive of my friends dreams. It made me stop dead in my tracks! I would like to think of myself as a pretty positive person, someone who is supportive and helpful to her friends. And then it hit me. I often hide behind being the “logical” or “reasonable” friend. The one who “stands with her two feet on the ground” (not that there’s anything wrong with that, on the contrary, it depends on how you do it though and that it’s not just a cover up for being stubborn and boring). I’ve been the one who will ask: “Have you really thought this through?”.

Sometimes that question might be called for, and sometimes it might well be much more about MY own fears than about supporting my friends in living their dreams. So from now on I’m going to be super-vigilant about this! I’m going to get to know myself and my fears and do my very best to keep my own fears from getting in the way of me supporting my friends to live their dreams. I’m thinking that when I manage to do this myself, this is what I will see in others too. It will come back to me in the way of the people around me being supportive of what I want to do, the dreams that I dare to dream, the cool stuff I want to create. They will encourage me and I them. This way, we will create a more positive, fun relationship between us.

There might be a time and place to ask questions, to be a bit cautious, to get to the bottom of what is going on. And generally speaking, isn’t it more fun to be supportive, going with the flow and seeing the possibilities that are out there? Doesn’t it feel better to have a positive attitude and be happy about someone going for it instead of finding reasons why it won’t work? And to know that perhaps, more than anything, those reasons why it won’t work for your friend, is just your own fears talking? When I look at it like that, what can I learn about me? And how can I use these insights for my own growth and development?

What do you think?

Here’s to playing a bigger game and living life to the fullest!





Surround yourself with love

This is going to be a bit more of a personal reflection type of post today. I’ve had an interesting time lately, personally and also watching the people around me. There are some people who just naturally act from a point of love and acceptance, and there are other people who seem to naturally act from a point of lack and disbelief. It’s interesting watching the different results, and it’s interesting being around, or surrounded by, one or the other. In one atmosphere there is love, acceptance, abundance, laugher and sharing. It’s including rather than excluding and these people create wonderful things together. There is understanding and support here. Its’ a safe environment to share and grow.

In the other environment there’s competition, fake smiles, back stabbing, and a sense of heaviness and stress. There is no real sense of connection. It seems to me like there is a lot of blaming going on, people keep tabs on who said what and who got away with what when. It’s tiring and nothing much moves in an environment like this. There is no natural collaboration, no one lends a helping hand and no real results are created.

So I’ve been thinking… What creates the difference? Is it down to what people often refer to as “company culture”? And in that case, where does that stem from? Who stands for, and decides the culture, in any group, association or company? Personally, I think it starts at the top. How was this group of people pulled together to begin with? What were the intentions of the founders? And how are the leaders behaving now? They might be the same people that started it all, or they may be new. It doesn’t really matter. It seems to me like this “culture” has a life of its own and it keeps on going in the direction it was once set off.

So therefore, I think it’s very important to look at our intentions when we start something new, even if it’s “only” a personal project or journey. Why am I doing this? What’s driving me? Where am I coming from? Am I doing this to create something? Or am I doing it to oppose something or someone? What energy am I starting off with? And how does that sit with the end result I want to achieve?

Have a think about that before you start something new. Take a few moments to get clear on what it really is that you want to put forward. What feelings do you want to be associated with this thing that you’re about to do? And then act from that space, whatever it might be. You are responsible for your own creations, make sure you create what it is that you truly want!

Today I’m choosing to act from love, to be in love, to surround myself with love. Because I’m worth it – and it feels better!

Have a great weekend!



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Love Cats! 🙂


Feng Shui Friday – Volunteering is good Feng Shui

There are three so called “lucks” in Feng Shui: Heaven Luck, Man Luck and Earth Luck. Earth Luck relates to your surrounding and this is where Feng Shui principles for homes and offices come in. Man Luck relates to you as a person, the good deeds you do, the way you approach the world and how and what you give back to your community. Do you leave people feeling better for having met you? Or are you a black hole that sucks the life out of everyone around you? Or something in between?

Well this morning I met a group of people who left me feeling better for having seen them – The staff and members at Pioneer Clubhouse in Balgowlah.

In their own words:

“A Clubhouse is a community intentionally organized to support individuals living with the effects of mental illness. Through participation in a Clubhouse people are given the opportunities to rejoin the worlds of friendships, family, important work, employment, education, and to access the services and supports they may individually need. A Clubhouse is a restorative environment for people who have had their lives drastically disrupted, and need the support of others who believe that recovery from mental illness is possible for all.”

What I got to see this morning is that Pioneer Clubhouse is a place where people with mental illnesses can come together, make a difference, meet new friends and get help to get back into the swing of things. Often times a mental illness will leave the person lost, lonely and perhaps even scared of the world. Often while being in hospital or at an institution, people are told what to do, they have decisions made for them and they are reduced to something to be taken care of rather than someone with their own likes and dislikes, interests and passions.

Personality and choice seems to go out the window when an illness “takes over” and often people with a mental illness are treated as if they don’t know what they want. At Clubhouse, these people are someone again. They do what they want to do, they help out where they want to help out and they are allowed to have an opinion. They are encouraged to again make decisions for themselves. Something that those of us who have never been mentally ill see as such a natural thing. I for one don’t even stop to think and appreciate the fact that I get to choose what I’m having for breakfast every day…

I was blown away by the important work that Pioneer Clubhouse does and the wonderful people involved. So in Feng Shui terms, being involved with something like this certainly will add to these people’s Man Luck and the whole of their lives will be better for it. It feels better to help out, it feels better to be of service and it feels better to take a moment and care about other people. We all want to do it I believe, and some of us forget or get too busy and caught up in life.

Giving something back is a great way to align yourself with what is important to you. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, it doesn’t have to be a lot, or take up massive amounts of time. Just a little something. Just something that feeds that part of you that feels happy and proud and good when you know you have made a difference.

Charity work, or any volunteering where you get to support other people or animals is a great way to give something back. It’s not always about money, though many of these organisations do need funds. It can also be about time, a helping hand, a good deed, donations in the form of clothes, furniture, lending your skill set etc. When you do good for others, you do good for yourself too. And it feels better. Thank you to everyone at Pioneer Clubhouse for reminding me of this today.

What is/would be your charity/cause of choice? What to you do already? Or what would you like to start doing from now? Please feel free to share.

Happy Feng Shui Friday,

For more information on Pioneer Clubhouse and the work they do, please check out their website


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Feng Shui Friday – Use the “power position”

In Feng Shui we talk about something called the “power position”. This is a place in a room that gives you control, it lends authority to your presence and you will feel comfortable and safe there. It’s easy to identify this spot in any room if you follow a couple simple guide lines. And then if you make sure you are actually in the “power position” you will feel different about spending time in that space, be more creative, more relaxed and in the flow of things. It’s especially beneficial to work or sleep in this position as you are in control, feeling protected and at peace. Both sleep and work will flow more easily when you do.

So how do you get there?

The “power position” is really quite simple to identify. There are two key aspects that you need to focus on:

  1. Have your back against a solid wall (or the bed head of your bed in case of a bedroom)
  2. Make sure you can see the door clearly from where you are and that you’re not in straight alignment with the door

That’s it! Seems too simple? Well, give it a go and notice the difference it makes!

When you’re going for a job interview for example, often times they are conducted in a meeting room of some sort. If you’re lucky, the person interviewing you will show you to the room, open the door and ask you to step inside. If they do, you want to go for the diagonally far away corner from the door and sit down. This way you are in the “power position” of that room, and this will have an impact on how your potential new employer views you. I promise.

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The far corner diagonally across from the door in a meeting room is the “power position”.



Imagine that you work in an open plan office, and for whatever reason, your team is moving floors. Make sure you get there first and stake a claim on a desk in a “power position” if you can. This can be tricky with open plan, and often these desks or workstations are found at the end of a cluster of desks, up against a wall. If you have to sit with your back to the room, place a small mirror next to your computer screen. That way you can see what is going on behind your back and you will feel a lot more comfortable.

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Often the “power position” is at the end of a cluster of desks in an open plan office.



Make sure you follow these criteria when furnishing your bedroom at home too. Put your bed head against a solid wall, make sure you can see the door to the room when in bed, and notice the difference.

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This bed is in the “power position”.



You can walk around any room and feel your way to the “power position” if you are uncertain. There will be a spot in that room where things just feel right, where you relax a little and feel more comfortable. That’s where you want to be spending your time.

So get out there, identify your “power positions” at home and at work. Let me know how you go, I’d love to hear about it.

Happy Feng Shui Friday,



Feng Shui Friday – Get out of your way!

As I was sitting down to write today’s blog I hit a wall. I had no idea what to write about. At all. I was contemplating not writing anything and just let it be. And then something happened. My beloved cat Rufus jumped onto my desk with his favourite toy, demanding my attention to go play with him. I figured I had nothing better to do, so I did.

Rufus loved it and I loved it. I was present with him. I wasn’t worrying about the blog. In fact, being in that space of play was really fun.

And now here I am, back at the computer with an idea for this blog. All I had to do was get out of my own way a little!

Energetically I can support myself and what I want to or need to get done, or I can work against myself and make it a struggle. Today I just learned again that it’s ok to take a break. That pushing through is not always the best way forward. That when I leave a situation where I feel stuck and do something that I find enjoyable, energy starts to flow again.

You are an energetic being, resonating at a certain frequency at a certain time. This frequency can either be aligned with what you’re doing, or not. If it’s not, you struggle, you feel stuck, you push and push and nothing happens. You do not move. When your energetic frequency is in alignment, things are easy. You go from one clarity to another and the things that you want come to you easily. I’m sure most of you know what I’m talking about here.

It’s the same with your home. The energy in there can either be supportive of what you want to create, or not. You can have a bedroom that is set up for rest, recuperation and peaceful sleep. Or you can have a bedroom that is keeping you awake at night. There might be a mess, lots of clutter, work papers, computers and maybe even a TV bringing active energy into this space of rest. Knowing what you want to create in a room and supporting those kinds of energy is like creating magic. You have the power to choose and change.

So what can you do when you’re stuck? Anything that works for you really. Maybe take a walk, do a 5 minute meditation, clean out one of your desk drawers (cleaning brings in lots of fresh energy), make a cup of tea, play with the kids/cat/dog. Do something that you really enjoy. That’s the key. Something that will put a smile on your face. When you’re happy, you’re in alignment, always. And from that space, you can create.

What will you create today?


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This is Rufus, helping me leave work for a while to re-align my energy.