Are you really ready for change?

Lots of people I meet say that they want to change. Then they don’t. So were they really ready to change to begin with? Or had they bought into some belief that their life would be better if they only changed X Y Z about themselves? Probably.

If that’s the case, I would recommend slowing down, taking some time and really figure out WHO says you need to change? Is it your friends? Is it society? Your parents? Family? Your boss at work? Or is it the quiet, steady voice inside of you saying “enough, let’s do something about this”?

If that’s the voice telling you to change, then change. You’re ready. It’s time.

If instead you hear your father’s voice, your friends, your teachers, colleagues, whoever that is not you, then maybe you actually don’t need to change at all. You’re not ready. This is not the time. So stop beating yourself up, stop “failing” at creating change and instead own the fact that you are not ready. This change that you “want” is not for you. And don’t do it. Let yourself be. Your time to change may come, it may not.

Know this – until you are ready, change won’t happen. You will fight it energetically, emotionally, physically and mentally, even if it is subconscious, even if you don’t know you’re doing it, you will be fighting it. Until you are aligned with your change, it’s going to be a hard slog. And that’s ok.

In that situation, instead of making yourself change because you should, be gentle. Wait for yourself to catch up. Work on aligning yourself with the change on all levels, make sure you can fully own it as yours, and then act on it. It might take time, and that’s ok.

When you are aligned with the change, you will know that it is coming from you. You will be certain it is in your best interest. You will know you’re doing it for you. Then go for it! Changing things up, being creative, learning new things can be really awesome. Change is good when you want it!

But what if you know you want to change, and have no idea where to start?

This is where I love feng shui as a tool. By knowing what areas of your home relates to what areas of your life, you can start creating positive change from the outside and in. By changing the corresponding areas of your home, you can start bringing on change in these areas of your life.

It’s like tricking yourself into changing without even realising it. When you free up energy in the areas of your home relating to health, your health will start changing as if it were magic. And in a way it is. These areas of your home are now resonating in balance, so your body, mind and soul will want to resonate with that same vibration.

Like attracts like.

And that’s what I teach in my workshops where I tell you how to read your home, so that you can be in control of the change you want to make and support yourself to get there.

I love what I do, and I love what feng shui can do for you!

Here’s to change,
Sara

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Are you ready, really ready to change?

The simple things…

On and off in my life I’ve felt this disdain towards people telling me to appreciate “the simple things in life”. Quite often this has been at a point where I’ve felt sorry for myself and like my life sucked, was too hard or there was just no meaning to, well, anything really.

I’m so glad to say I don’t have days like that anymore.

It might still hit me for an hour or two. And now I have a way out. A way to stop myself from spiralling downwards.

Wanna know the big irony? It’s about appreciating the simple things in life! HA! Back at me!!!

So yes, those people had a point. Yes, they actually knew what they were talking about. Funny that. I really do think it’s because I’ve started appreciating the simple things in life that I no longer go that far down the rabbit hole. I’ve been lucky enough to come across a mentor that has taught me to connect back with what is really important. And that one thing is…

Nature.

It’s not “my inner self”, it’s not “who I truly am”, it’s not “my purpose”, “my core” or anything like that. It’s nature.

Nature is simple. It’s always there. It IS what it IS. If it rains, it will rain. No matter what I think about it. No mater what I do about it, nature just is. And that’s the beauty. That’s the learning. Therein lies the answer.

So these days, whenever I feel myself going down that negative spiral again, I stop. I make myself go outside and connect with nature. I don’t care in what way. Sometimes I swim in the ocean. Sometimes I look at the flowers on my lemon tree. Sometimes I watch the moon high in the night sky. Sometimes I sit on the wet morning grass.

And in that moment, I’m fully present and I appreciate the simple things in life. Like the fact that I’m still breathing. That I have all of my senses intact and can fully take in the beautiful show that nature is, even in a suburb in Sydney. There is so much life going on around me. And when I connect in with that, there is just no other way than to appreciate it.

So next time you find yourself feeling down about something, why not give it a go? Go outside and connect with nature in some way, any way.

It works for me. Maybe it will work for you too?

Tree hugs,
Sara

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Sunflower – a simple thing to appreciate in life!

How to clear clutter effectively and easily

So for the last few weeks I’ve been focussing on clutter. Firstly why it sucks. Secondly how you can recognise it, and thirdly how to use it to get a move on.

Today we’ll look at how to actually clear your clutter easily and effectively.

The more clutter you have, the bigger a task clearing it out will seem. That’s ok. Don’t freak out. Just decide that you’re the type of person who lives without clutter and go about getting it done. It might help to give yourself a set time each day, say 15 minutes, that you will dedicate to clearing your clutter.

If the daily clearing is not your thing, then you can dedicate 2 hours every Saturday morning, or an hour Wednesday evening or whatever time works for you. Have a look at your weekly schedule and make a commitment to yourself. You can do this, and once you get started, you will notice how much better you feel, and it will get easier and easier.

This is what you do. You set up a three box system and everything that is clutter (brush up here) will need to go in one of these boxes.

1. Stuff to keep
2. Stuff to give away or sell
3. Stuff to throw out

Box number one will be things you love, use or need. So this can be your tax returns for example. You don’t love or use them, but you need to keep them. This box stays in your home. Preferably neatly put away where you can easily access the things you might need.

Box number two can be full of stuff that is functional, nice, practical and useful, but for some reason you don’t like it, or you don’t use it and you don’t need it. Ladies, your “thin clothes” go in this box (and then to friends, the Salvos or Vinnies. OK?)

Box number three will generally hold old paperwork that you don’t need to keep any longer. It will be things that are broken and can’t be fixed. And it will be stuff that is just rubbish.

Now, you might end up in a situation where you’re not sure of whether to keep something or not. What if it comes in handy one day?

I call this “keeping stuff for a rainy day”. In short, don’t do it. Holding on to things you don’t love, need or use “just in case” sends a message to the universe (or god, or whatever you want to call it) that you don’t believe you will have enough in the future to take care of your needs. You think you need to hold on to this thing as you might not be able to find a new one in the future, or you might even be thinking you can’t afford to get another one IF you need to. This creates a mindset of lack. And that’s never helpful.

If you end up worried about the stuff in Box number 2, here’s a trick. Put that box away for 3-6 months and see if you need or miss any of the stuff in there. If you don’t, give it away after whatever timeframe you set yourself. Easy!

So there you have it. This way of clearing clutter is really simple, and it works.

So give it a go!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this blog and the rest of my clutter series. Please get in touch with any questions or feedback.

Here’s to moving forward,
Sara

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Easy to use three-box system for clearing your clutter.

Your clutter is talking to you

The last couple of weeks I’ve written about what clutter is and how it’s actually a great tool you can use to get to know yourself better and decide what area of life needs your attention next for you to move forward. If you missed those blogs, you read read them here and here.

So how do you listen to your clutter? How do you understand the subconscious messages you’re sending yourself about where you need to focus your energy next to move forward?

Where your clutter is accumulated in your home is the key.

If you have clutter under your bed for example, the likelihood is that you are either a bit stuck around your relationships, or your health, or both.

Clutter in or around your entrance indicates issues with creating wealth and living an abundant life.

A cluttered kitchen might indicate that you struggle with your wealth/abundance and also your health.

So I actually find this very helpful in my consultations. By looking at where clutter accumulates in people’s homes, I can know what areas of their life is not working optimally at this point in time. And together we can then set a plan for how to change that.

If you want to get to know your own clutter, I highly recommend you go to the “Blog Topics” drop down menu to the right hand side of this page and choose “Compass Directions” from the categories. Each of the eight compass directions represents an area of your life and a family member. By reading about what clutter in this area of your home means, you can get a better understanding of yourself and hopefully feel motivated enough to make a change.

Next week I’ll write about HOW to best clear your clutter. It will be a very hands on, practical type of instruction that you can go straight home and use.

I hope this is helpful. If you have any questions, please leave a comment or get in touch with me.

To your happiness,
Sara

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Your clutter can have something very important to say to you…

What if your life purpose is just a scam?

That thought stopped me dead in my tracks the other day.

What if there is no big mystery for me to unravel about myself? What if there is no ONE BIG THING that I am here, in this world, to do? What if I don’t have a singular purpose the way I have been told, and chosen to believe?

What if?

At first, I got really upset. This has been such a big part of my life for such a long time. The hunt for my purpose. The looking. The hoping. The failing to find it. The feeling of hopelessness that comes with not knowing. The hope that comes with the thought that “once I find my purpose, my true calling in life, things will fall into place, life will be easier, I will attract what I need to fulfil that purpose. If only I knew what it was…”

Then what I felt was freedom! Happiness! Elation!

If there isn’t this one big thing that I have to find… Then I can relax. I can enjoy the ride. I can be me and be happy. And being me, right here, as I am, can be enough.

How good is that?

What about the possibility that there are several, smaller little meanings to my life? And what about if they can change over time? What about if where it’s at is following my dream, one step at a time, and realising that dream can change.

When I think about it, it’s almost impossible for it no to change!

I’m not the same person I was 10 years ago, living in Sweden, never having been to Australia. My life journey has taken me to some places I never even dreamt of visiting. I’ve seen some stuff man, and some things! And I’ve changed on some levels, and on some levels not.

The way I would have lived my so called purpose 10 years ago would have been vastly different from how I would live it today.

So doesn’t it feel better to relax into the thought that there isn’t this one, elusive purpose out there, waiting for me to find it? Instead, there are these smaller dreams, excitements, happy places that light me up… And my life is about stringing together as many of those as I possibly can.

In that scenario, life is a hunt for the good stuff. Life is about having this experience as a human, and that’s it. There is no other big secret to it. It’s about being here, it’s about enjoying the ride. And that’s a freeing thought to me.

So my life, from this day, will be about following my dreams. And they can be small, they can be big, they can be about me or they can be about the greater good. I will do what feels right, and fun, and good, and important to me. Whether that is my “purpose” or not, who cares?

What do you think? Crazy? Or freeing?

Love,
Sara

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The search for your life purpose… A dead end???

 

A physical change can create a change in energy

I’ve been struggling a little bit lately I must admit. I’ve spread myself too thinly and this is catching up with me now. I have this tendency to say yes to things, without fully considering the consequences. Sound familiar?

Mind you, I only ever say yes to things (well these days anyway) that excite me. And even then, too much of a good thing can still be too much.

So I’ve had a look at how I can best manage my own energy going through busy periods like this. And what I have come up with is probably not mind blowing, or even at all new to most of you. And it has really hit home with me this week, so I felt it was worth sharing anyway.

When I’m feeling busy, I’ve noticed that my mind gets really busy too. I start thinking about all the things that I haven’t done, that I need to plan, people I should have called, emails I must reply to, dinners I must cook… And all of these thoughts add to the feeling of busyness, you might even call it overwhelm.

Then there’s the solely mental overwhelm to deal with as well. You know the one. The one that creeps up on you when you might have a little bit extra time on your hands. The one that sets of if you’re not ok with having some time out, some time off, a slower day (which we all need and I’m all for). The mental stress that sets in if and when you feel like you “should be doing more”, for whatever reason.

I see this in myself and I’ve seen it in my friends and clients as well, when I’m not physically busy, I can still make myself mentally busy anyway.

When you don’t know what to do or how to move forward, what do you normally do? Some people sit and wait for inspiration, procrastinating and hoping for direction to turn up. And while waiting for direction, they normally try to figure it out from a head space. “What do I need to do next?”

Some people push themselves even harder, thinking “the more energy I put in, even if it’s going in the wrong direction, something MUST happen, right?” Some people freeze and feel crap and as a result end up doing nothing, sitting at home like a deer caught in the headlights trying to “figure things out”. Some people stress about it, obsess about it, talk about it, try to work it out, and as a result, it feels like a lot is going on, and in reality, nothing really happens.

So if you are physically busy, or mentally busy, or both, feeling overwhelmed does not help. Agreed?

Well, what can you do? I have found this week that PHYSICALLY changing helps. Don’t try and work with that busy mind of yours, this will only add to the burden of the millions of thoughts already running around in there. Instead, DO something different. Forget about your mental abilities and get into your body.

But how?

Surely meditation must be great, as this is what it’s all about, quietening your mind. For a number of reasons, I actually don’t recommend you starting out with meditation, unless you are very skilled at it and quickly can get to a place of peace inside. Why? From what I hear so many people tell me, they never, ever get to that calm, beautiful place inside while meditating. They just sit still and their mind races just as quickly and as much as per normal. So start with something much more simple.

Move.

That’s it. Move your body. Go for a walk. Clean out your wardrobe. Go to the gym. Get your bike out and go for a ride. Weed your garden (added on bonus of connecting with the earth). Swim in the ocean. Walk your dog. Do some yoga at home. And whatever you do, really focus on how this activity feels physically. Notice your breathing, what muscles are being used, are you sweating? And then start noticing things around you. Is the sky blue today? Is the sun out? What are the other people at the gym wearing? Has anything changed in your neighbourhood? Just pay attention.

And you will notice your mind starting to calm down. I have found that when I’m present in my body, it’s really hard to be busy in my mind at the same time. Being physical directs your energy towards something completely different, and it will give you the mental break you’re looking for.

If you’re at work, you can always go for a quick 5 minute walk outside. Find an empty meeting room and do some sit-ups, pushups and star jumps. Or stand up and do some stretches at your desk. Who knows, your colleagues might even join in!

Think about some things to have up your sleeve as your go-to solutions for when you find yourself feeling too busy or overwhelmed. Figure out a few things you know you would love to do ahead of time and write them down somewhere. Then when the mental stress hits, you can look at your list and choose an activity and get yourself back towards a calmer, more centred you.

What will work for you? What will you do to get out of your head and into your body?

Love,
Sara

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A physical change can create a change in energy!

Inspiration

What’s inspiration? According to Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition, “inspiration” is:

  1. stimulation or arousal of the mind, feelings, etc, to special or unusual activity or creativity
  2. the state or quality of being so stimulated or aroused
  3. someone or something that causes this state
  4. an idea or action resulting from such a state
  5. the act or process of inhaling; breathing in

So basically, inspiration is something that gets your mind excited, your feelings onboard and gets you to do something creative or out of the ordinary (my jumbled interpretation of the above). That sounds pretty exciting to me!

Yet I often feel “uninspired”. I don’t want to take on a task because I don’t feel inspired to do so, I feel like it’s a chore. Or I’m “just not in the right mindset”. So I wait around and hope that, somehow, inspiration will “happen to me”. Well, most of the time, it doesn’t. So I end up making myself do that thing I really needed to do several days ago, feeling equally as uninspired about it now, only with the twist that now it’s urgent. So I get to add a level of stress as well.

Nothing like a bit of a deadline to motivate me, and lots of other people.

And I know this problem isn’t just for me, I hear people say this all the time: “I don’t feel inspired”.

And I want to change that, for me, for you, for anyone who’s open to some new ideas!

Let’s look at this for a moment. According to Collins English Dictionary, inspiration can be someone or something that causes the state of inspiration. It doesn’t say anywhere that I have to be the one to inspire myself. That’s great. That takes the pressure off. In fact, it even points to the solution right there.

When I don’t feel inspired, someone or something else can get me there. So it seems quite easy then, doesn’t it? If I feel uninspired, and I wish I was inspired instead, go find someone or something to put me in that inspired state.

So here’s an idea. Why not set up your own “Inspiration Kit” (or insert other cool term here that works for you)?!

What inspires you? What gets you in that space of feeling creative, in the flow, ready to go? What leaves a smile on your face and makes you bubble with energy? Is it inspiring quotes? Pictures, books, music, people, movies, websites, places, activities??? What floats your boat? What makes you feel like taking action?

I’m sure if you think about it, there’s a lot more that inspires you than you were originally aware of. So my suggestion is to collect it all in one place where you can easily access it when you “need inspiration”.

You could do a vision board. Or an Evernote note. Or a bookmarks category in your browser. Or an excel sheet. Or a file in your filing cabinet. Or a drawer in your credenza. Or a board on Pinterest. Or start a Facebook group and invite your friends to play.

I’m sure you’re getting the picture here!

So this is what I’m going to do:

  • create a play list with music that lifts my energy and makes me want to dance
  • set up a separate shelf in my book shelf with inspiring books (Eckhart Tolle “A new world”, “Rework” by the guys from 37 Signals, “Become a key person of influence” by Daniel Priestley, among a bunch of others will go there)
  • continue to pin great quotes to my Pinterest board
  • and remember to take a break and go outside and sit in nature when all else fails!

What will you do? I’d love to know.

Have an inspired weekend!

Cheers,
Sara

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Thumbs up for Inspiration!